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Yesterday my seven year old daughter came into the kitchen, pushed her belly out and asked me if she looked fat! Everything died inside me.

I quickly began a mental backtrack and visual images of me standing in front of my bedroom mirror scrutinising my body (whilst she sat on my bed) popped up. And the time’s I had discussed weight loss and dieting with a friend, in person or over the phone triggered...

I never thought post natal depression would affect me. I don’t know why exactly I thought this - after all, it is common amongst post partum women (more than 1 in 10 will experience it within a year of giving birth), especially those who have a family history of the condition.

My maternal grandmother suffered from particularly bad post-natal depression after all three of her children were born. Given this, I’m not sure exactly...

Sometimes life is so hard that even sleep looks like a demon favouring all your scars, you run away from it, it chases you and you give up because it’s all you have, it’s like a guilty pleasure even if it’s wrong you want to have it because it looks like morphine- a sedative.

There are many people around us who affect our lives in one way or another but there is a time when we measure all of it and we judge ourselves according...

After writing a piece recently about going to events as a solo person, I had several offers from people saying they would come with me to future ones. Whilst this is, of course, lovely, it wasn’t what I was trying to project, I was saying that it’s okay to be alone. And I’m still saying it’s okay to be alone.

This week is a wonky week for me. The end of the school year always feels quite overwhelming, there are so many events t...

At the tender age of 15 I struggled with my identity. The ruminating thoughts that drained me weekly - Am I too skinny? Am I pretty enough? Am I smart enough? Did said boy fancy me? 15 years later and it troubles me that I am still asking myself the same questions. 15 whole years. Why am I still dissilusioned about my existence - and why do I still allow society to have such an effect on me? 

When I ask myself wh...

The world of dating can be pretty awkward and confusing so will naturally come with both good and bad experiences. So much so that when I decided to take the plunge into dating (an anxious plunge might I add) I decided that at the least this would be a learning experience as well as helping to identify the type of man that I was seeking - now in my mid 30's with hopes that my choices had become better and evolved since my late...

“Well, here’s to you Mrs Robinson.” 

Were the words I woke up to after spending the night with a much younger man. I laughed, of course, and we woke up together many more times after that too.

So, what is the appeal of the older woman, younger man relationship? For me, I had no idea it was a ‘thing’ until I was single again and started online dating.

I didn’t know I had a ‘type’, then I began swiping right and realised, that pret...

We are only as heavy as our secrets. That’s become part of my psychotherapeutic personal and professional mantra. Just because our conservative society, family or friends may find difficult subjects best dealt with in silent ignorance, does not mean that we, you, now us, have to carry on this old-fashioned concept of public denial. Subjects such as child abuse, domestic violence, rape, self-harm, anorexia, abortion (you get th...

I’m vegan-ish. That’s my label, if there must be one. It means that I’m a vegan with commitment issues.

I would love to report that I am full vegan, never wavering off of my righteous path, looking down my nose at the meat and dairy eaters and leather-wearers that dwell in my own house. But I cannot type up and deliver that report to you. I am a flawed vegan. Hell, I am even a flawed vegetarian, at times.  Allow me to go back t...

A few years ago I went to see 'The Script' in concert.  The lead singer, Danny had disappeared from the front stage and reappeared up in the balcony singing to a delighted, albeit hysterical fan, who was filming him with her mobile as he serenaded her.

To the audience’s complete surprise he stopped singing and asked her to stop looking at him through her phone screen. He said, “I am standing here right in front of you but you’r...

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