Ever sat dreaming of a new venture, a change of job or speaking to that hot guy you commute with every morning - only to be met with, am I good enough, do I have the right skills or qualifications, why would he like me? Yep - the all too familiar negative self chatter that many of us have and wish we could just get to shut the hell up. So, how do we stop it in it's tracks?
The 5 Second Rule
The 5 second rule was created by author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins and is nothing short of amazing. It’s simple and this is how it works. When you have something to do or something you want to say - perhaps in a conference or getting out of bed in the morning. As soon as the thought of action comes into play, count to 5 and execute. The trick is the attention you are paying to counting down will stop any negative chatter and the option for deliberation of kicking in and by the time you get to 1 - you’ll be kicked into action. Now that’s powerful.
Switch off Negative Nagging Nancy
Negative Nancy talks a lot of crap and aren’t you tired of listening to her nonsense. Well shut her up then. The key to switching negative talk is to shut it down as soon as it starts by switching immediately to a positive thought. As soon as you have a negative thought combat it with something really positive to override it completely.
Love Your Individuality
It's important to underserstand that we are all so very different. What one person lacks another person holds and vice versa. Embrace what you may think is a flaw and see it as sheer uniqueness and a trait or attribute to be thankful for. Celebrating your individualism can be the starting point to feeling better about ourselves and releasing self criticism.
Lack of self belief can develop from unrealistic expectations or even words that people or even parents may have said to us throughout our lifetime that simply are not true. Dose yourself up with some positivity each an every morning though positive self talk. Affirmations work a treat at perking up our inner psyche. Use them daily to enhance confidence and self-esteem.
Daily Reminder - I'm A Badass
For some reason we do not seem to praise ourselves enough - especially as mothers. Congratulate yourself for all the achievements you have made. Do away with modesty and boast. Remind yourself of just how much of a badass you really are by writing and reminding yourself of all the achievements, big and small, that you've made.
What's The Worst That Could Happen?
So, did you know that up to 90% of what we worry about actually never ever happens. Shocking right? When you put this into perspective with the amount of time we spend doubting and worrying, then that's alot of time wasted. If we keep this in mind when we're doubting the turn out of events then our whole mindset can totally be transformed, enabling us to live a healthier and more optimistic life.